Tuesday, July 27, 2010

I'm Not Going to BlogHer10

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There, I said it. I'm not going to BlogHer10. I've attended the conference since 2007 and leave each year with a different feeling.

In 2007 I was a nobody. And though I had some good times at the 750-person event, I left feeling invisible.

But I went back in 2008 and had more fun.

And, honestly, BlogHer2009 was a lot of fun. By that time I had many friends in the blogosphere and it was great connecting IRL. There were even people that recognized me (or my blogs) and had nice feedback that I was touched to hear. But with close to 1200 attendees and a dozen or more unofficial brand events it was starting to feel like too much.

It really hit me when a few days after the conference I saw some online friends tweeting about it- people I wanted to meet IRL, people I didn't even realize attended BlogHer09.

So this year I'm sitting out. For me, it's too much, too many people. I mean have you seen this list? Oh, and I hear there's a conference going on, too.

I've enjoyed the smaller conferences I've attended in the last year. I'm talking Blogalicious, Blissdom and Mom 2.0 (next year in NOLA- want to meet up?). Those are just more my speed.

And the swag? Fuggetaboutit. We're getting rid of almost everything and moving into a minimalist phase. I don't need more stuff and right now; there's very little I even want.

I appreciate everyone who's mentioned they hope to see me or will miss me in NYC. And I'm tickled by the couple of BlogHer brand events I've been invited to, but I'm staying home this year.

If you're attending BlogHer10, I hope you have an amazing time; I'm sure you will. Especially if you take a moment to follow my advice on how to have the best BlogHer ever and heed the 10 Commandments of BlogHer Success.

Have fun, learn new things, make new friends- that's what it's all about. Maybe I'll see you at TypeAMom?

20 comments:

Donna said...

I'm one of the ones who will miss you - but I am also leery of the size of the conference. I was at the first one, in 2005, which was an intimate gathering with minimal sponsorship (all they could do for the evening cocktail party was wine and cheese). It was a much more satisfying, uplifting, communal experience than subsequent ones I attended (which were still great -- but I didn't leave feeling as satisfied).

At least, you and I will always have Palo Alto! And if I come across any additional $$ I can use to attend a blogging confab, I will meet you at one of the smaller ones.

thenextmartha said...

I will be going this year and it sort of makes me laugh. I truly hope I can just hang with some incredible woman and if I happen to learn something, well that's a bonus. Will miss you, but you ARE in my backyard so maybe we shall meet some day.......

TheAngelForever said...

I am definitely going to miss you at BlogHer. This is my first BlogHer conference, so I am taking it one day at a time. I have several events that I am supposed to go to before/after the sessions, but we shall see how it goes. I am more interested in networking and taking it all in. I could not pass up NYC since it is practically in my backyard. The other conferences are a schlep for me and cost a lot more $$ once you add in plane. Hope to meet you IRL one of these days.

Elizabeth @ My Life, Such as it is... said...

I'm going to Bloggy Boot Camp this fall in Austin since it's close to home. I'm more comfortable in smaller settings myself so I figured it would be a great way to "get my feet wet" in the blogging conference world.

Lisa Hanneman said...

Not going, but all the chatter I've been seeing has been making me feel a little bummed about it. Reading this reaffirmed my decision and then looking at my bank statement solidified it, as it's just way too expensive to justify. Maybe next year... Or maybe I'll catch a smaller conference. That's MUCH more my speed.

Nicole Pelton said...

I'll miss you...I swear you were a big reason I enjoyed my first one so much. Not much fun the next year so skipped last year and went back and forth but decided to go. No expectations, but am planning to have no shame about glomming on to certain people so don't feel alone.

I already have my "it was so clicky and everyone ignored me and I didn't get enough SWAG" post in draft for after Blogher :)

Just Margaret said...

I admit to hoping to have the chance to meet you at the conference. This my first time attending BlogHer, though I've attended various ones concerning other topics (International Tax Regulations are pretty sexy, you know!) and I kind of feel like I may be a fish out of water at this one. I'm not interested is monetizing my blog or connecting w/ "Brands"...I want to hone my writing skills, particularly as they apply to a blogging platform, and I want to meet the other writers that participate in the BlogHer site. Though I'm RSVP'd for a few parties, it's more in hopes of running into writers that I admire than anything else. Frankly, I can get "freebies" at any conference, but I don't get to tell women that I admire how much their writing has affected me at just any old conference.

And since you are not attending, I'll take this moment to offer a heart-felt "Thank you". I found you when I first started covering gifted issues on my blog, and have enjoyed your writing immensely. You gave me the inspiration to keep writing about the issues I deal w/ raising my gifted kids in a teeny, tiny, less-than-progressive town.

And as much as I can, I think I get why you've opted out this year. In your shoes, I'd have likely made the same choice.

TillyBeaz said...

I thought about going, I wanted to go but I am trying to be greener and saving travel for necessity. I too hate the waste and whilst I love people and the mass of great women, speakers, educators and information will be great - I too felt overwhelmed. So I am going to work harder to find great people like you and thank Blohger for making it easy to track and learn from the green confort zone this side of the pond. Tilly

Christina said...

I'm sorry I won't see you at BlogHer this year, but I'm hoping I'll make it to one of the smaller conferences later this year. Hope to see you at one of them!

Laura (@chambanalaura) said...

Here's to Type A Mom! Can't wait to see you there (and hopefully before then too).

QuatroMama said...

I'm with ya! See you at Blissdom if not sooner!
Love and Hugs!

ConnieFoggles said...

I'm sure you've heard it a million times, but I'm going to miss meeting you at BlogHer. This is my first time going so I'll be sure to read your posts as I'm trying to get as much info as possible in advance.

I agree with you about smaller conferences. The networking and true connecting happens there. I hope to make it happen at BlogHer in my own way. I also hope to meet you in the near future.

Rebecca at Toothwhale said...

I heard you speak at Blissom this year and I hope to meet you at TypeAMom -- I'll be there. I'm not going to BlogHer, either.

Janis @ Sneak Peek At Me said...

Look forward to meeting you at TypeAMom!!

Stacey / The Mom Renewal Project said...

I'll be heading to BlogHer next week full of excitement. Last year I didn't know anyone, loved it, and was completely overwhelmed.

This year, I look forward to seeing online friends IRL, hanging out in the Serenity Suite, and connecting with new inspiring bloggers.

Hope to see you soon!

Naomi said...

You will be missed. I agree, the number of extracurricular activities is startling this year. I'm already tired thinking about it.

I'd like to go to one of the smaller conferences this year, Evo was amazing. I hope we can both go to that one next year!

Jennifer James said...

I totally understand your point about Blogher being too... everything. My first one was last year. This year I'm not staying at the Hilton and I didn't even buy a ticket. But, I'll be in NYC to attend events and catch up with people.

I look forward to seeing you in a few weeks and at Type-A Mom and Blogalicious!

colette said...

I live in chicago, have had my blog for 3ish years and have never bothered with BlogHer before. This year I signed up because I love nyc and wanted my kids to stay with me (best city rate I've ever seen). Truth, I know NO ONE, I will only attend a couple of parties and maybe a session or two, mostly I will have fun bringing my kids to the cake boss's shop (in hoboken), walking the brooklyn bridge and any other cool things we can find to do, I can thank BlogHer for all of it. I am shocked by the amount of parties going on. But you know, some of the bloggers are going to have great times at those parties and that is good. I agree that small conferences offer something this does not. It certainly is bigger than I can comprehend. If nothing else it will be interesting. My husband and I even discussed me changing hotels for saturday to be away from the action with the kids, but we'll see.

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

I'm home this year too, but I get to hang with you anyway! So yay for that! I will probably shoot for the smaller conferences this year, too. I would like a little more individual time with people. Though the parties of BlogHer were pretty rockin...

Tech Savvy Mama said...

I will miss seeing you at BlogHer this year but am excited about catching up with you at both Type A Mom and Blogalicious which will be here before we know it!